Paranormal: Why are we scared ? – When i’m talking about the paranormal with some people here is what 80% of them tell me :” I really do love the paranormal but it scares me!” Something absolutely normal and explanable, fear is an emotion very hard to control and being scared is animal when you feel a danger. Fear is not innate, you develop it after experiences in the past that, some of the time, you cannot remember. But your body and your memory record it and that’s why when you scared you can really feel your body’s reactions. When you’re suddenly scared, you may want to run away, to scream, you shiver, you have goose bumps, you may cry and sweat and your heart beats so hard. Sometimes you can also faint, and a few times, well thanks god these one are rare, you can die. You know that quote “It scares me to death” well it could be real, fear can be so intense that could provoke an heart attack.
Some fears can become phobias. A phobia is so irrational that it is very very hard to fight but it is not impossible. You can follow a therapy or see a psychologist in order to help you. It will take you time and patience but you overcome it. For example, i’m scared of snakes, so scared that time after time it becomes a phobia. When i was a child i wasn’t scared at all of them, i rembered that i touched it once. But all around me people were so scared, and i’ve heard them all my life long saying that a snake is the most frightening thing in the world that i was steeped in and finally thinking the same. This day, i promise you that i could cancel holidays in the most wonderful place in the world if i heard that there were some snakes there. Stupid isn’t i? That’s very hard for me to accept that a fear finally can dominate me. And you have to know that i’m also scared of darkness, and i can explain it too, i lived a very traumatic moment when i was a child, and since, this is hard for me to be in a room which is in pitch black. Funny isn’t it, for someone who whorks with the paranormal, but you know what, maybe i cannot control my fear of snake, but the fear of darkness is just so awesome in my job. So much adrenaline, this is like gazoline, fear gives me desire to surpass myself.
But let’s talk about paranormal. Do you know that it was asked to people what they were scared of and that many of them answered ghosts? As heights, snakes and talking in public. Ghosts are for people a common fear. I can understand it because you have to know that the fear number 1 for a human being is the death. This is not true for some tribes, but for most of the people it is. Even if we all know that we’ll die some day, there is like a kind of immortal belief inside us, and we really fear the day of our death or of our kins’one. The unknown scared us too, when will i die? How will i die? Is there a life after death? Will i be a spook stuck in this world? To us, ghost are the result of death, and maybe it refers to our own death.
We can also say that we are all children of big screen and that we grow up with any horror movies. A child is like a sponge, he lives experiences, some good and others traumatic. He forgot most of them, but his flesh will never forget. A horror movie can scares you for all your life. Let’s have a test. (click on the picture)
Ok, if you had shivers down the spine, maybe you’ve been scared of “It” and maybe as many people (like me) since you are scared of clowns. Stupid fear but we can explain it because of that movie. Many movies have affected and are most of our fears about the paranormal. More, cinema doesn’t use the paranormal for romance or comedy, most of the time, paranormal is used to scare you and that’s what you finally love. But, unconsciouly, to you paranormal is what you’ve seen in the horror movies and … Thanks god, NO! So most you see horror movies, most you receive that subliminal message and develop an unconscious fear.
Due to this, it is finally normal to be scared of the paranormal. But we love it, because this is strange, mystic, because this is not normal, because it intrigues us, but some people doesn’t want to know the truth because they are scared of what they could heard. You know, sometimes i see skeptic people, but they are so aggresive when they tell you that this is so stupid to believe in ghosts that it is so easy to see that finally those people are so scared of it that they reject the idea and lie to themsef that they are not believers. Their mouth say no but their body say yes.
Maybe you’ve been traumatized by an horror movie, or maybe you’ve lived a paranormal exeprience in the past, you have to know that you can fight your fear. And if you don’t want to be scared anymore, you have to learn about you fear. What are you scared of? Why? Do you remember when? Do you think your fear is real? … You have to read good books, and watch interesting documentaries about paranormal chasers or medium, stop watching those stupid videos on Youtube, these are all fake! At last just think about the paranormal, about ghosts, okey so just imagine, you are at home, suddenly you’re face to face with a ghost, okey, you’re scared, well, then what? You close your eyes and it disappears. That’s it. Yes it was unusual, but that’s it. I mean, paranormal is not only that, but i just want you to imagine the worst, and most of the time the most impressive is seeing a ghost and most of the time it won’t hurt you. I understand that your body reacts, but it needs to be looked at in context. But don’t stop to be scared, as i told you fear is such a gazoline. Control your fear, that’s it.
And please, don’t forget that horror movies are only movies. I know, most of them are inspire of real facts, but it is so much amplified, you know producers need to get their money back so they have to give people what they want. And really, a few, a very few of that movies look like what paranormal really is.
To me paranormal is a passion, a quest, really, it learns me so many things about life, about people and about me. It learns me to surpass myself and my fears, it learns me about history, science … It learns me to open my mind and stay tuned to the world. You know, 15 years ago i was like most of the people, so, so scared of the paranormal. I grow up with ghost tv shows and all those paranormal facts in my family, and as my family was scared, i was too. And then i learned about it, and now i learn to the people how to live in harmony with paranormal stuff.
So, what about you, are you scared of the paranormal? Could you explain why? Even if you are, would you enjoy to investigate by night a haunted place with me?